"Truth is beauty, beauty is truth". A bit of poetry everyone has heard. It is a lie. The truth is almost universally a horrid and distasteful thing that most people want nothing to do with. If you were to be truthful with people, and be completely honest, you would find yourself surrounded by hostile people.
Try some honesty at work. Tell your boss what you really think about their ideas. Tell them you are working just hard enough no to get fired. Let them know that if you get a slightly better offer you are taking without hesitation. Your boss knows that they are worthless, but they hate when other people bring that up. If you really let out your feeling about your work place you would be fired so very fast.
Ever had an honest conversation with your woman (or man)? Your with them because they are the best you can do, or at least you are too lazy to try to do better. You can think of few people you would rather be with, but at this point this person is already here, and it is less work to just put up with their shit. You could tell them about the dozens of thing they do that piss you off, but then there would be a fight and drama. Honesty leads to breakups. Communication, honest communication at least, is the greatest enemy of a long lasting relationship.
Honesty doesn't even work when you are alone. Do you know how god awful a moment of honest self reflection is? One where you admit that all the ways your life has gone wrong is your own damn fault, and you stop trying to pass the blame. You realize in such a moment that you hate yourself with the intensity of a thousand suns. This is why you have the person you are with, the discuss you have for them makes you forget about your self hatred. This is why you under achieve at work, because thinking you are better than your job give you an excuse to not reach for more. The worst part is, you find you have become all the things you never wanted to be.
That is what honesty is. It is hideous, and painful to behold. Lies and misdirection are what we have become comfortable with. If we were all honest at once, it would hurt, but after a while it would get better. However, the truth is just another lie.
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Friday, October 28, 2011
Group Dynamics.
In all groups of people there are certain dynamics that take place. Depending on what type of group certain types of people will always exist within them. While each group will vary somewhat, but so long as there are three or more people certain dynamics are in play.
In a group of men there will at the very least be three people in play. There will be the dumb guy, he may not be generally dumb, he is just not at quick as the others. The dumb one is slow with comebacks, and might not be the best at arguing a point. Next we have the wimpy dude, he avoid confrontation at all costs, and has no opinions of his own. The wimp is in the group mainly because he needs somewhere to get his opinions from, and to have people to help him move heavy things he is to weak to move himself. The third man is the lazy man, never awake before noon, never to be relied on for anything. The lazy man is usually an expert on some area of useless information, and makes others feel better for being more motivated. These three are the most basic members of a male group. Larger groups will add more, like the driver, the fat guy, and the guy that everyone wonders why they are friends with.
Female groups also have their stock characters. In a group of women you will find: an "ugly" one, a "pretty" one, and a "bitchy" one. All of these terms are in quotes because they are very relative terms. The "ugly" girl is just less attractive than the others, in a group of 10s she might be an 8, while and 8 is still attractive it is not as good as 10. Same applies to the "pretty" one, every one else is a 7, she is an 8, you get the point. Now the "bitch" is just the one that is generally hostile to those not in the group, she might be nice to others in the group, but if you are an outsider, or a man she simple doesn't like, watch out. Larger groups will also have: eating disorder girl (either to fat or to thin), tomboy, crazy chick, and everyone's favorite the easy chick.
Keep in mind one person might fill two roles within the group. You might have the a guy that is both the dumb guy, and the wimpy guy. No terms are necessarily a put down, sometimes the dumb guy is the leader of a group. Remember, you think your group doesn't have a certain member, it is likely you are that member.
In a group of men there will at the very least be three people in play. There will be the dumb guy, he may not be generally dumb, he is just not at quick as the others. The dumb one is slow with comebacks, and might not be the best at arguing a point. Next we have the wimpy dude, he avoid confrontation at all costs, and has no opinions of his own. The wimp is in the group mainly because he needs somewhere to get his opinions from, and to have people to help him move heavy things he is to weak to move himself. The third man is the lazy man, never awake before noon, never to be relied on for anything. The lazy man is usually an expert on some area of useless information, and makes others feel better for being more motivated. These three are the most basic members of a male group. Larger groups will add more, like the driver, the fat guy, and the guy that everyone wonders why they are friends with.
Female groups also have their stock characters. In a group of women you will find: an "ugly" one, a "pretty" one, and a "bitchy" one. All of these terms are in quotes because they are very relative terms. The "ugly" girl is just less attractive than the others, in a group of 10s she might be an 8, while and 8 is still attractive it is not as good as 10. Same applies to the "pretty" one, every one else is a 7, she is an 8, you get the point. Now the "bitch" is just the one that is generally hostile to those not in the group, she might be nice to others in the group, but if you are an outsider, or a man she simple doesn't like, watch out. Larger groups will also have: eating disorder girl (either to fat or to thin), tomboy, crazy chick, and everyone's favorite the easy chick.
Keep in mind one person might fill two roles within the group. You might have the a guy that is both the dumb guy, and the wimpy guy. No terms are necessarily a put down, sometimes the dumb guy is the leader of a group. Remember, you think your group doesn't have a certain member, it is likely you are that member.
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